Dating—20’s+
You would think that dating in your early 20’s would be extremely easy, considering that you are surrounded by others in college plus your social life is in high gear. Well then you would be wrong because technology has changed the way that a large number of people interact and as crazy as this seems, online dating and dating apps have become popular among young daters.
One of the problems with connecting online is that basic social skills have become lost and now more than ever these skills are needed to move ahead in your career. Remember, this is the time to learn the social skills that will help you throughout your life; take your time to become a more confident person, a very attractive attribute that will serve you well in life. Some free online sites are more popular for this age group, but you will have to weed through a lot of people on these sites to find those who are worth your time and energy.
Dating—30’s+
When you reach your 30’s many people change their way of thinking about dating. Women will usually start to take it a bit more seriously because of what they would like their life to look like in the future. Just because you may be taking dating seriously now doesn’t mean that you should be so serious about it! Dating should always be fun and lighthearted—don’t put extra pressure on finding “The One.”
The more people that you meet will eliminate the nervousness that comes with putting so much importance on each date. Expand your social circle by going to meet-ups and different local events. Learn to say “Yes” to friends’ invitations. If you choose to add online dating to your mix, then a paid site becomes more useful as they tend to have more people who are looking for a relationship as opposed to casual hook-ups. There are cons with online dating; it is actually very time consuming because so many of the photos and descriptions are not accurate. This ultimately leads to dates with people that you feel are not at all like their profile.
I suggest being in the moment and taking advantage of smiling at that cute guy or girl as your go about your day. You will be amazed at how little shifts in thinking and actions can make a real difference in your love life!
Dating Do’s
Remember to date safely; let people know where you will be and when you will return. Meet at a public place. Always drive separately to and from the date. Listen to your intuition and leave if you feel that something is wrong.
Keep in mind that every place you go has the potential to be a place where you meet both men and women. The secret is to look at them and smile, look away and when you look back, linger a bit with a smile. Being playful is the easiest way to strike up a conversation out of the blue. Ask for help deciding on something such as a coffee or directions, whatever seems appropriate at the time.
Use networking to help you with your social circle; this is relevant for all age groups. At networking events you’re not as self-conscious talking to people that you do not know and this allows you to cast a wider net. By knowing that every person you meet could be a gateway to your next special someone will make these events even more fun!
